I had a realization this week. It was in light of a series of events, experiences and conversations I’ve had over the past few months and came to head this week. It was so empowering, transformative and freeing, I knew I had to share.
I used to hear and believe that finding power within me went against what I was taught in my faith. Somehow, I wound up understanding that harnessing the beauty and strength within me, would be sacrilegious. No matter what your faith is grounded in, please don’t ever believe this lie. You have been created for greatness and a purpose. No matter who or how you were created, you are a magnificent being who is capable of so much more that you will ever push yourself to do.
I remember when I met Kyle Maynard for the first time a couple of years ago at an event I was involved in, I was in awe. His story was so powerful, but even more powerful was the story of his mother. She never let him make excuses. She pushed him to do things for himself. In turn, he learned that the only person in his way, was himself… so he got out of his own way and climbed Kilimanjaro without the help or hands or legs!
I have four children, and I only hope I have instilled this belief in them. As I go about sharing Oola, I sometimes meet people who don’t understand, and don’t have a desire to understand how they can be empowered to find a life of balance. The first thing out of their mouths is a rationalization statement, “Balance doesn’t really exist, because it isn’t possible!” Now you can believe that if you want. Or you can instead embrace the attitude of solution driven, successful leaders. Stop asking the question “Is it possible?” rather ask yourself “How can it be possible?” Don’t get me wrong, the minute someone allows me to explain, I usually see hope in their eyes but the odd time, I see despair.
That’s what I want to address. There are those out there who have such a strong belief system, that they are not worthy of a life of balance and they deserve nothing. It destroys all of their hope. They have learned to live outside of themselves, in order to deal with the constant feeling of disappointment. There are so many reasons a person can get there. A lifetime of being told you aren’t worthy certainly will do that. Maybe you have experienced abusive parents, toxic friendships, people who abused their power of authority, or partners who have a need to control and manipulate you. I want to tell you, you have the power within you to reject that message. It is a lie.
Finding a life of Oola, balanced and growing in 7 key areas of your life (Fitness, Finance, Family, Field (your work), Faith, Friends, and Fun) IS possible. It is there for the taking. The key to getting that life is you. The power is all inside of you. There are no magic potions, checklists or ‘how to’ guides… it is about living intentionally. We can give you the steps to stay on course, but you have to want to overcome the obstacles, you have to pursue the life. The choice is yours: live complacent, live a life of mediocrity or choose more. And if you struggle with unworthiness, wake up every day and speak truth instead of believing something that simply isn’t true. STOP looking down on your life like you can’t do anything to change it, and take an active part in your future. You have everything within you to be or do whatever you want to do.
Are you in healthy relationships where you are valued? Does your boss even know what you do on a daily basis, or does he/she just blindly want more? Are you dreaming? Are you setting goals? Are you having fun, or guilt ridden if you try? Do you demand respect from those you spend your time with? Do you nurture your healthy family relationships? Are you exercising? Have you allowed faith in your heart? Are you proactive or reactive? Do you like yourself, if not why?
So what was the realization that I had this week? It was the belief that I was in control completely! I had read it, said it, written it and spoken it. This week, I believed it!
Life, our life, is incredibly short. Don’t waste it without ever realizing you can change your circumstance, that you are worthy of happiness, that you can control your destiny. Your Creator made you strong, beautiful and with a purpose. Please don’t waste that creation.
The power is within you!