Relationships are an important part of life if not the most important piece in our lives. We have many different relationships; work-relationships, personal relationships, friendships, social relationships, and so on. Each relationship is important and valuable in its own way. It’s a way to develop trust, a commonality, a connection (work/personal), and a support system, between two people.
Let’s briefly look at some of these relationships. Being able to work alongside your co-workers is important, day in and day out and having some sort of relationship makes work more enjoyable because lets face it, you’re spending a lot of time there and working together cohesively becomes more productive and maybe even fun (to think you could have fun at work).
Friendships and social relationships are also important. Having friendships (the right friendships) is very valuable. A support system outside of your family with people that accept you for who you are, and support and encourage you to get to where you want to be is priceless.
Now lets look at the third F of Oola – Family – one of the most important relationships hands down. Why? The answer is because you chose to create this relationship. You made the decision to commit to another person and start a family (or maybe you’re planning on having a family). Either way you entered into this relationship because of love and happiness – two things money can never buy. You nurtured this relationship until it developed into something serious and special. Now I ask… why do we take the most important person, in the most important relationship that we have in our lives for granted? We get so caught up in our day-to-day lives.
We’re developing other relationships that are important to us for various reasons but we forget to nurture the relationship with our family – the ones closest to our heart. Eventually it catches up with us. Think about it, you get so caught up with work, meetings, and deadlines that you’re late for dinner not once but multiple times. Then you start cutting out date night until you wake up one day and realize you no longer have a relationship with your spouse but rather you are both going through the motions and not engaged in an actual relationship! How can that be? You started to take the most important person you wanted to create a life with for granted. You stopped making time for your Family.
In Oola, Family is everything. Take a minute to examine your relationship with your spouse and your family – do you have a healthy relationship? Do you make time for each other? Are you supportive of one another? Figure out where can you grow in this area – how can you do better or be better? Then take action and make a change. Date your spouse and make time for the person that means the most to you.
Relationships especially marriage require work every single day. There is so much truth in this quote by Dr. Troy Amdahl aka the OolaGuru – “If you are not working on your marriage then you are working on your divorce”. 40-50% of marriages in the United States end in divorce. Live the life you are creating with the person you chose to make a life with.
How does the relationship with your family tie into your career? It’s very simple. If you are happy with your life at home, you are more productive in your career. Your mind is more focused and you can concentrate on your job rather than thinking about how to work on your family life that is failing. Going to work and doing your job well, with a clear mind and with purpose means you can enjoy the life you are creating with your family.